Defending Against Emotional Abuse
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In some cases, emotional abuse is very difficult to identify. Emotional abuse includes criticism, intimidation and manipulation. The victim’s sense of self worth and self esteem is affected because of this kind of abuse. Emotional abuse can happen in any kind of relationship; this could be among friends or family members. If someone is constantly making you feel and look bad, insulting, criticizing and/or humiliating you, then it is an abusive relationship. However, there are ways of defending against emotional abuse.
Listen to your gut feelings and understand that it is not your fault. Perhaps the most difficult part in defending against emotional abuse is accepting that the fault is the abuser's and not the victim's No one should have to feel that they deserve such a treatment.
In an abusive relationship, the victim is convinced that it is their fault. However, in reality, the fault always lies with the abuser and has nothing to do with the victim. Do not get into a conversation that is abusive. Usually victims resort to this as a way of defending themselves, but end up realizing that they are being trapped. If you respond aggressively, it only escalates the fight.
Maintain your calm and look straight into the eyes of the abuser, and ask him/her to stop the abuse at once. Also, go away from the abuser at that time. Suggest counseling to the abuser and also bring to his notice about his actions. When you both are calm, start a discussion and set limits and make sure that your concerns are heard. You are an individual who has a mind and you deserve respect and your thoughts have to be heard. However, if the abuse seems to continue even after taking all these steps, consider leaving the relationship.
Most of the abusers are that way because they were abused as a child. Abusive nature comes from childhood insecurities. There are ways to correct that behavior through counseling. If the abuser agrees to go for counseling, you can hope to have a better relationship in the future. Do not react to the abuse but take action in a positive way. If the abuser happens to be a coworker, it is important to bring the abuse to the notice of the supervisor.
In order to deal with your own emotions, think about getting counseling. Even councilors can help you deal with the abuser and protect yourself n the mean time. It will help repair your self esteem.
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